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Are you sticking to your New Year’s resolutions?

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How to stick to your New Year’s resolutionsWith the New Year upon us, many of us will participate in that grand tradition of making New Year’s Resolutions, spurred on by hope and commitment, only to give up days later – there’s always next year!

Why are New Year’s Resolutions so short-lived and how can we help you to make yours a success story?

Eight tips to help you stick to your New Year’s Resolutions

In a recent study published in the Journal of Clinical Psychology, 45% of the subjects confirmed that they regularly make resolutions for change, but only 8% report reaching their goals.

Plan for change

Most of us fail in our resolutions because we make them in a rather spontaneous, emotional moment. We state …

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Keeping you responsible: the one drink per hour rule

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Keeping you responsible: the one drink per hour ruleIn today’s world, if one uses alcohol, there is a constant exhortation to “Drink Responsibly!” But what exactly is responsible alcohol use?

To be responsible, most of us would accept, is to take ownership for our behaviour, and to take ownership of the effects of our behaviour on others. To use something responsibly, be it a car, or a hunting rifle, or a substance like alcohol or drugs, would be to use that thing in a way that did no harm either to ourselves or to anyone else.

So how can you ensure that when you use alcohol you …

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How to be an effective client when in counselling

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A man and women talkingWhat is being an “effective client” in a counselling experience, I wonder? As a counsellor and clinical manager, I find this to be a thought provoking question. When we use the word “effective”, we have to ask: “to what end or to whose purpose”?

It seems to me that an effective client is one that is good at making sure they get what they want from the counselling experience. After all, you are the customer, the receiver of the service. So, what can you do to ensure you get the most from your clinical experience? Let me offer you a number of thoughts for your consideration to …

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Listening: the greatest gift

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A couple huggingI want to tell you two stories that highlight one of the greatest gifts counsellors can provide their clients, and that people can also provide each other: the magical gift of pure, focused, and caring listening.

Thirty five years ago I was a university student, a few years out of high school. Feeling alone, experiencing pain from parent and sibling family issues, struggling with the academic workload, and working to pay my rent and food, it all became too much for me, and caused me to walk into the student counselling services office. I had never asked for

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The secret to couples counselling: managing expectations (part 2)

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a coupleIt’s very understandable that people sitting in their own unhappiness look to counsellors to help them feel better and to help improve their relationships. Sometimes however, client expectations of their counsellor are too high. Counsellors work very hard to help their clients, and bring a lot of skill and expertise to the table, but we have no super powers and can’t perform miracles.

Here is a list of things counsellors cannot do for you:

  • Counsellors do not have magic power over your partner, and cannot make them see things your way or make them do things as you want them done.
  • Counsellors aren’t judges with special “lie detecting powers” and
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