Monthly Archives: September 2014

The best reason to stay sober

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student holding booksAs a university student, I struggle to live up to my own expectations, my parents’ dreams for me and my friends’ assumptions, all on a daily basis. I know from experience that it’s a challenging time, but I also know that throwing alcohol into the mix won`t help me figure things out. Alcohol will only complicate things further by confusing you about who you really are: the sober you or the drunk you.

Drinking may help you relax your nerves, but it will also make you lose control. You will become ‘the drunk’ or the people laughing at the ridiculous drunk. Staying sober will help you avoid becoming either of …

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The art of getting support after a divorce (part 2)

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child sleepingSeparation and divorce are stressful life transitions; in fact, after death of a spouse, divorce is rated as the next greatest life stressor, and learning how to share the kids is often the biggest hurdle newly divorced couples face. I’ve yet to meet anyone who has navigated these waters without incident. There are no simple answers or a script to follow. But there are ways to reduce the stress and conflict, albeit they take practice and patience.

Perhaps one of the greatest insecurities and vulnerabilities we endure centers on losing the love of our children, losing time with them as they go between homes/families, or fear of being replaced by …

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The art of sharing the kids after a divorce (part 1)

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couple sitting on different ends of a sofaSharing. Is this not one of the universal principles and values that we try to instill in our children from an early age? “Be nice”, “give and take”, “if there is only one cookie, offer it to your friend first or split it and share”. Why is it then that as adults it can sometimes be so difficult to practice what we preach?

Take, for example, two cars at a shopping mall vying for the same parking spot. Rarely have I seen one driver retreat and graciously wave the other driver into the spot. Instead, each driver maintains a sense of personal entitlement, competitiveness, and possessiveness.

I’m not here to …

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The oft-forgotten role parents could play in their child’s education

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Two childrenAs parents, we tend to entrust teachers with the responsibility of educating our children through curriculum studies and by instilling proper social behaviour. For the most part, parents play a support role, ensuring that their child eats well, gets a good night’s sleep, and hands in homework on time –limiting the abuse of the legendary “the dog ate my homework” excuse. However, parents could continue playing this task-manager role while also becoming a navigator. They can advise their child on how to manoeuver through the new and sometimes unchartered waters of a classroom environment. In this oft-forgotten role, parents can help their kids understand teachers’ expectations, learn how …

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Gambling: What is problem gambling? (Part 2)

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Man in CasinoIn part one of this blog post I talked about the importance of perceiving of gambling as a source of entertainment. For most people, keeping gambling ‘fun’ isn’t a problem. However when people develop a gambling problem, it can have a devastating impact on their work, family, and finances. Problem gambling is defined as excessive gambling that negatively affects key areas of a person’s life: physical or mental health, school or work performance, finances and relationships. Problem gambling can affect anyone regardless of age, gender, ethnicity or social status.

According to the Canadian Partnership on Problem Gambling (2005-2006), 76% – 82% of adults take part in some form of gambling each …

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