Information. We live in a 24-hour news cycle: your online news feed and your ‘all-news’ radio or TV stations are happy to keep you informed about the latest things that may be deadly. Even if you don’t pull up the news, your preferred homepage may be streaming a banner of events in your region, your country and across the world. Then there are the notifications: buzzing, ringing, chiming and pop-ups to let you know about messages received, tweets followed, and alerts from other social media connections. And that’s just your personal life – add work and things get even busier!
We are so connected to anyone, anything, anywhere and anytime, but is all of this helping us, as Oprah would say, to live our best lives?
Recent research suggests there are some pitfalls to our constant connectedness:
It may be worthwhile to consider the effects on your personal, work and family relationships. If you see yourself in the three points below, keep reading! There are ways to balance the pressure of being connected and feeling connected.
Just a sec, I just have to read/reply/like/post/share – We’ve all said something similar when running late to keep a commitment with friends, family or colleagues. In the moment, you may have experienced the situation as urgent: senses on full alert, tunnel vision, increased breathing rate, feeling flushed. It’s just an email, but by treating it as urgent, we initiate physical, emotional and neurochemical cues similar to the flight or fight response. If you’re escaping danger, this response is very handy. But, looking at the past day, week, month, how often were you alerted to truly urgent situations requiring immediate and full attention?
Breaking news –The first headline, banner, alert, pop-up to inform us of situations of interest or stories we’ve been following is helpful. However whatever the medium, repeated receipt of the same information can be unhelpful and can actually make us feel overwhelmed and irritable. Constantly viewing media commentary and coverage, especially visual imagery, of a natural disaster or a catastrophic event can actually have a secondary or vicarious traumatizing effect. It’s good to keep informed but overexposure to sensational events can leave you with a skewed world view.
Can you pay attention? We are now accustomed to claiming we’re multi-tasking when caught out for a lapse of attention. As we dart to each new stimulus, it’s easy to become very distracted and lose focus. Losing focus during a meeting or on a teleconference might be embarrassing; when cycling or driving, such distractions can and does lead to worse. In social situations, if you’re interacting more with your device than your companions, you may be jeopardizing how connected you feel to your friends and vice versa.
For most of us, it’s not realistic to log off completely and even if we could, we probably wouldn’t want to anyway. But there are ways to get the right amount of connectedness in our 24-7 world.
Use these strategies to handle the 24-7 news cycle gracefully:
If you’re having trouble managing the information overload and the stress it can bring, reach out to a counsellor for guidance. Deciding how to handle the amount of information we get on a daily basis will go a long way to relieve the perceived urgency of each new message and notification flashing on your screen. It may just be the difference between being connected and feeling connected.