Monthly Archives: April 2014

On aging

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On aging“When I get older, losing my hair, many years from now…. Will you still need me, will you still feed me, when I’m sixty four?” Do you remember that Beatles song from 1967? We were 17 at the time and thought it was cute and romantic, if not a bit silly. Age 64 was very far away and definitely old! The thought that at 64 we would have lost our looks and be past our “best before date” in the eyes of the world did not concern us because getting older was only an abstraction.  Being “old” was inconceivable.

We all know from observation that we, like most biological organisms, are born, mature in our abilities, and then surely, if …

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Spring cleaning for the mind

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Spring cleaning for the mindEach spring, I can’t help but remember being back home in the Maritimes and my mother starting her yearly spring cleaning ritual. With 6 children, there was plenty of help with the monumental task of cleaning the whole house from top to bottom. Looking back, it felt like it took a week or two to completely clean our 3-story house. This ritual has been with me my whole life; for me spring means that winter is finally over and it’s now time to get out the cleaning supplies and scrub the floor, walls, and ceiling. Yes, the ceiling too! Then it’s time to de-clutter. Spring cleaning is a time to clear out old junk and start fresh.

These spring cleaning …

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Connected to the world – surviving the 24-7 news cycle

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Connected to the world – surviving the 24-7 news cycleInformation. We live in a 24-hour news cycle: your online news feed and your  ‘all-news’ radio or TV stations are happy to keep you informed about the latest things that may be deadly. Even if you don’t pull up the news, your preferred homepage may be streaming a banner of events in your region, your country and across the world. Then there are the notifications: buzzing, ringing, chiming and pop-ups to let you know about messages received, tweets followed, and alerts from other social media connections.  And that’s just your personal life – add work and things get even busier!

We are so connected to anyone, anything, anywhere and anytime, but is all of this helping us, as Oprah would …

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Choosing the right service for you

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Choosing the right service for youShepell, your employee and family assistance program (EFAP), knows that different situations call for different support options.  We offer many services and to meet your needs, our services come in a variety of easy-to-access formats.  With so many options at your fingertips, choosing the service that works best for you can be made a bit easier by considering a few things.

Urgency

First and foremost, the urgency of your issue will determine whether a prompt, immediate response from a trained professional is necessary.  For example, if you are experiencing suicidal thoughts, we recommend an immediate consultation with a clinician.

Lifestyle

Consider your own lifestyle and what type of service would best fit with your family and work life demands. For …

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Getting along with an over-spending spouse

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Getting along with an over-spending spouseKnow that old joke about not reporting a stolen wallet? “I didn’t report it to police because the thief was charging less on the credit cards than my spouse.”  

For some, that joke rings more true than funny – an overspending spouse can make a budget-conscious spouse feel like they’ve been robbed.  Suppose you set aside fifty dollars for miscellaneous expenses through the week, pack lunches, stick to instant coffee and walk in the rain on a day when a cab would have been really nice.  Come Friday you’ve stuck to your budget, only to find your spouse spent $200 on yet another coffee machine…“because it was on sale”.  Your budget was raided just because your spouse wasn’t …

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