Not many people are naturally confident, but we are all capable of appearing more confident even if, on the inside, we might still be nervous. Learning how to appear confident is important in many walks of life from job interviews to dating to negotiating. Once you can learn to come across as more confident, your actual confidence itself will increase and you will feel much better for it. Try the following methods to improve your demeanour.
Those with confidence issues often appear scatterbrained and unable to focus on certain tasks. Not only does this make you appear clearly anxious, it also prevents you from being productive to your fullest potential. To overcome this, learn to focus on the task at hand and do not attempt to take on more than you can handle. Whether you’re at work or in an entirely social situation, try to shut out distractions and focus your attention.
Any psychologist or language expert will tell you that body language accounts for the majority of human communication. You can use body language to learn a lot of things about the person you are talking to, and by keeping your own body language in check, you can come across as more confident than you might really be. Depending on the situation, it is usually better to look more relaxed and comfortable. Avoid fidgeting at all costs since this can come with bad habits that make you look quite obviously anxious.
Try to look content and happy even when you’re not. This is important in both social and work scenarios. If you appear happy at your job, for example, you will make a better impression on your boss and your colleagues. If you look happy in a social situation, you’ll make a positive impact on your own mood and also those people around you. This does not mean that you should go around with a blatantly false grin like a Cheshire cat; it just means that you should focus on more positive things. Positivity breeds confidence, whereas negativity brings down your mood and those of the people around you.
Eye contact is essential when it comes to appearing confident. In fact, it is arguably the most important aspect of all. If your glance is constantly wandering off from the person you are speaking to, they may think that you are either disinterested, lacking confidence or easily distracted. This is particularly important in one-on-one situations such as job interviews or dates.
Set goals for yourself and make your own challenges. It is important, however, to find the right compromise between believing in your abilities and setting realistic goals. When you meet these goals and fulfill your challenges, you will feel much prouder for it and, with this pride, comes a far greater degree of confidence. It can also make you more productive at work and more satisfied in your personal life.
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