After your adult child moves out
Your child has moved out but family members are experiencing times of loneliness, anxiety and uncertainty.
How can you help your family and yourself make a smooth and enjoyable transition?
- Don’t make immediate sweeping changes: Take some time to adjust to the new pace of life in the family home. Avoid immediately ending your relationship with your spouse, selling the house, or buying a new car. Maintain as much normality as possible as everyone adjusts. If you do introduce change make sure you inform the child that has left home. They need to know things are changing so they will not be surprised or upset when they come home for a visit.
- Keep in Touch: Text, Facebook, Skype, or Twitter. Make a quick call to let your child know that you are thinking of them. Encourage them to contact you when they want to talk. Carve out new ways of staying in touch with each other like scheduling a weekly call.
- Take the Initiative: Take steps to re-establish old friendships and be on the lookout for new ones. Organize a night with friends and invite them to your place or out to a movie.
- Act on your dream list: Take your dream list and start organizing your plans with your spouse. Did the two of you want to travel? Create art together? Learn a new language?
- Talk: If the transition of your child leaving home is difficult, you are experiencing feelings of loneliness, or are just generally overwhelmed, talk to a friend or family member. These are normal feelings and can be expected with any major life change. If these feelings interfere with your ability to enjoy or handle daily tasks, reach out to a professional through your EAP. If you’re struggling, there is no shame in seeking help.
Remember your child is not the only one on an exciting new journey. You are moving into a new phase of development in your life too!
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Tags: children, empty nester, Parenting