Author Archives: Kelly McNaughton

The art of getting support after a divorce (part 2)

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child sleepingSeparation and divorce are stressful life transitions; in fact, after death of a spouse, divorce is rated as the next greatest life stressor, and learning how to share the kids is often the biggest hurdle newly divorced couples face. I’ve yet to meet anyone who has navigated these waters without incident. There are no simple answers or a script to follow. But there are ways to reduce the stress and conflict, albeit they take practice and patience.

Perhaps one of the greatest insecurities and vulnerabilities we endure centers on losing the love of our children, losing time with them as they go between homes/families, or fear of being replaced by …

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The art of sharing the kids after a divorce (part 1)

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couple sitting on different ends of a sofaSharing. Is this not one of the universal principles and values that we try to instill in our children from an early age? “Be nice”, “give and take”, “if there is only one cookie, offer it to your friend first or split it and share”. Why is it then that as adults it can sometimes be so difficult to practice what we preach?

Take, for example, two cars at a shopping mall vying for the same parking spot. Rarely have I seen one driver retreat and graciously wave the other driver into the spot. Instead, each driver maintains a sense of personal entitlement, competitiveness, and possessiveness.

I’m not here to …

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SEXTORTION: The New Cyber Predator – PART 2

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SEXTORTION:  The New Cyber Predator - PART 2Last time, we discussed the phenomenon of sextortion and cyber-predation, dangerous crimes that have grown out of the age of social media and internet. How does one fall victim to these crimes, and how can we protect ourselves and our children?

How Cyber-Predators Find their Victims

Predators are individuals, generally part of a network, who monitor live internet web rooms. Once they identify someone they think is emotionally vulnerable, they begin to gather information about the teen; where they live, their peers, their family, and information about the school they attend. It begins through social media. The predator uses verbal coercion, starting with compliments and flattery once there is engagement with the victim. The predator may disguise himself as a …

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SEXTORTION: The New Cyber-Predator – PART 1

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SEXTORTION:  The New Cyber-Predator - PART 1When I was a teen, many moons ago, stealing a look at The Catcher in the Rye at the library was risqué. My girlfriend discovered her neighbour’s stash of Playboy magazines in the garbage and carefully relocated them beneath a large landscape rock in her yard for our later consumption and giggles. There was excitement in the taboo.

Exposure to and the disclosure of the forbidden fruits of soft porn and foul language were more closely guarded and difficult to access in another generation and time.  Goodness, even everyday realities were considered too brazen. Tampon commercials and lovemaking pitches to sell condoms were not even on the radar. Even TV couple Desi and Lucy had single beds, and television rules …

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Information overload – digesting tragedy in the digital age (PART TWO)

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In part one of this blog we discussed the concept of information overload and the stress that this non-stop diet of bad news can cause. What are the side effects of this kind of stress overload? How can we support ourselves and our families in the face of the never ending stream of information and media stimuli?

Long-term side effects

Various studies have examined the impact of media exposure on people following 9/11. In one such study, approximately 90% of the participants demonstrated symptoms of traumatic stress. In fact, the greater the exposure to media coverage, the greater the stress, and post-traumatic stress, exhibited by the participants. This is a normal response! Post-traumatic stress, or PTS, is the …

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