We have endless ways of talking about and understanding romantic breakups. Because most love relationships and marriages are monogamous, it is necessary for one to end for another to begin. This means that there’s a lot of attention paid to how to break up, and how to manage the emotional pain at the end of relationships.
What our culture doesn’t pay much attention to is the end of friendships. It’s almost as if friendships are expected to last forever, in some cases from kindergarten into late adulthood. Even as people grow farther and farther apart, friends can feel pressure to stay in touch, meet for monthly lunches, and feign interest in getting together when they run into each other at parties.
If the thought of spending time with certain friends feels more and more like an obligation, accompanied by a sense of dread rather than excitement, it could be time to end that friendship.
If for any reason you feel like a friendship is no longer feeding you or offering what you need, it may be time to end it – even temporarily. Rather than just let things drift off, it can feel good to sit down with your friend and have an honest conversation about what needs of yours aren’t being met, and why you want to take time apart. Take this approach rather than relying on Facebook and unfriending to get your point across. Consult with one of our experts for the best way to handle this situation. Call 1 866 833-7690 or visit workhealthlife.com for more information.
It can certainly be stressful to consider formally ending a friendship, partly because it’s something that isn’t really talked about. However, consider the peace of mind you’ll get once the tension of this friendship is removed. And remember, like with any relationships, endings aren’t necessarily permanent; they can sometimes be an essential step into new, more comfortable territory.